The Most Stressful Time in My Life


What’s the most stressful time of my life? That’s hard to say!  I’ve had several stressful times:  I was given up for adoption, and that comes with separation stress no matter how well it’s done; my adoptive mother died two days before my 9th birthday; a brother committed suicide; the blended family was a wild ride, to say the least; as a young adult, I made a fair amount of really bad life decisions and a spontaneous, poorly planned move to a strange city (Hello, Memphis) knowing no one, having no job, and having to make my way without ready-made connections.  

As with all of us who are married, my hubby and I have had our issues – and now that we work together, well, we’ve added a whole new array of stressors to our relationship!  But we’re doing well- most days.  And we experience lots of blessings working together as well.  

Speaking of Blessed Stress…

I don’t want to leave out my most positive stressors!  As all parents know, having children is no walk in the park, although walks in the park help with the stress of children!  Having children is definitely one of those life experiences that is a mixed bag of difficulties as well as blessings.  As fate would have it, we Brain Trainers have a beautiful, brilliant child with attention issues!  She’s doing fabulously and we’re so proud of her.  And having this gem has helped us empathize with our clients with ADHD children.  

We run our own practice and with that comes the stress of business ownership.  Learning to become a business woman and not just a health practitioner continues to be one of the most stressful things I’ve ever done.  Business skills don’t come naturally to me and I’m having to learn them in my old age.  Thank God, we have plenty of brain tools to help my old brain learn new tricks!  

A Rocky Road

In my late 40’s I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s and, on top of that, struggled with a long flare of EBV.  That was very stressful because I felt sick and exhausted and conventional medicine had nothing to offer me.  I am not a person who takes medications to cover over symptoms.  I believe we can get to the root cause of conditions and I believe healing is possible if we supply our bodies with what they need and get rid of the toxins.  

Trying New Stuff

Oddly, while I hardly had enough energy to do the bare minimum, it was an incredibly productive time in my life.  It’s a time in my life where I dug into my faith in God and learned how to really listen to Him and follow His lead.  Somehow in the midst of the pain, exhaustion and brain fog, I had the grace to really study the body and true health.  I learned how to nourish myself in body, mind and spirit.  I availed myself of our Neurofeedback and stress reduction tools – and experienced our practice as a client would. I believe that helped me become a better practitioner.  

I found some wonderful Functional Medical practitioners who helped me get some services I couldn’t get on my own:  like IV Vitamin therapy and bioidentical hormones.

This hard time in my life became an accelerated learning curve. I tried all kinds of things!

 “Some people thought I was a little overboard, maybe even a little crazy, but I don’t consider anything I tried to have been a failure or waste of time. ” 

I learned so much, and it was so personal to me that those lessons stuck.  Now, I’m blessed to get to use all my experiences and knowledge to help others.  


How I Deal

I’m not done with my healing journey.  I kind of think we’ll all be on one form of healing journey or another until the day we depart from this earth.  So, I’m learning to have patience (at least I try), and to be curious rather than judging myself.   

I think the most important things that have helped me deal with stress are:

  • My faith in God:  Learning to be quiet and hear His voice has been life changing.
  • Learning to breathe in a way that calms my system and at the same time, energizes me with a good energy has been exciting.  
  • Learning to practice gratitude and appreciation – of even the smallest of things.  I’m learning to consider each day a treasure hunt in which I intentionally search for beauty, kindness and joy, and then take time to revel in the feelings of appreciation for those gifts.
  • Learning to listen to my body to decide which foods nourish rather than deplete me has helped me make increasingly more effective food choices.

Everyone has an incredible story.  Everyone faces a myriad of difficult stressors.  I feel honored and blessed to get to walk alongside people as they step into their healing journey.  I love to listen deeply and help people find their own unique healing path.  

Anxiety & Your Brain

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Do you worry a lot?  Do you struggle with invasive, negative, self-defeating thoughts that you can’t seem to stop?

Have you tried counseling, meditating, even medication, and found sporadic, or little to no relief?

Did you know that anxiety is a symptom of Brain Dysregulation?  You have Anxiety Networks in your brain and when they get out of whack, no matter what you do, you will struggle with worry until those networks get re-regulated.

Neurofeedback is a safe, non-invasive, efficient and effective way to re-train the Anxiety Networks in your brain to take on the Habit of CALM.  You actually can achieve the brain of a lifelong meditator in a short time with Loreta Z Score Neurofeedback, the Ferrari of Neurofeedback!  

You don’t have to take dangerous anti-anxiety medications that create a host of unwanted side effects. 

         Side Effects of Anti-Anxiety Medications

                 * Addiction and difficulty getting off medication

                 * Impaired Memory Formation

                 * Increased Anxiety, Anger, Fear & Frustration

                 * Insomnia

                 * Muscle Pain & Weakness

                 * Cognitive Impairment / Inability to Think Clearly

                 * Coordination problems

                 * Headaches

                 * Depression              

Instead of taking dangerous medications that MIGHT merely suppress symptoms for a short time, you can actually retrain your Brainwave Habits in a very safe, effective, and lasting way.

Rather than treating your health as a short term expense by throwing your money into the current “disease care system” that only benefits when you remain sick, decide to invest in yourself so you can be the healthiest and best you. 

Train your Brain and Live Fearlessly and Abundantly!  Try Neurofeedback.

There are several kinds of Neurofeedback on the market now and so you want to be a smart consumer.  Here are the questions you should ask of any provider who is offering Neurofeedback:

  1. Are you certified by the BCIA? 
  2. Is your Neurofeedback FDA Approved?
  3. Is your Neurofeedback based upon my individual functional neuroimage, or 3-D Brainmap? Or are you using a one-size-fits all program?
  4. Does a qualified Neurofeedback provider actually run my session or do you just hook me up to a machine and let it run a program?

Dr. Dale Foster is a BCIA Certified Senior Fellow, a QEEG Diplomate and a Licensed Neuropsychologist with 30 years’ experience in evidence based NeuroFeedback.

Give us a call for a Free Phone Consult:  (901) 624-0100



Relief from Holiday Stress and Anxiety


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‘Tis the season for gatherings and gift-giving! For many it’s a joyful time of year, but for others it means added stress and anxiety. For those less than jolly, turning to medication may have harmful side effects.

Stress and anxiety are like the body’s alarm system saying that something needs to be changed. Instead of silencing it through medication, there are other ways to address and treat the issue. In a 2014 study by Lambos, W.A. and Williams, R. A, many people were able to reduce or get off of anxiety medication after completing a course of LORETA Z-Score Neurofeedback.

At Memphis Neurofeedback, Dr. Dale Foster, Lee Ann Foster, MS, and their staff specialize in helping people heed the body’s signals— specifically from the brain. Brain mapping technology can detect where the brain malfunctions. LORETA Z-Score Neurofeedback is a powerful technology that translates the brain’s signals into information or feedback that the brain can use to train itself to have healthier functioning brainwave patterns. Research showed that each patient’s anxiety symptoms improved and average of 70 to 90 percent after completing a course.

For example, in some types of anxiety, parts of the brain are overactive, which promotes fear-based feelings and the flight or flight response. Neurofeedback would train those areas to normalize and the person would feel relief. Depending upon the complexity of the case, a person could see sustainable changes in their brain within 10 to 20 sessions of Neurofeedback.

During Neurofeedback, a person wears a brain cap that measures brainwave activity. They select a movie or video game as their feedback. When the brainwave activity changes in the desired way, the brain is rewarded by the movie or game playing large, bright, and full.

During Neurofeedback the brain is learning and changing itself. There is no pressure to figure anything out. The only task is to watch the screen. The brain is neuroplastic and has the ability to change itself.

Research by Lambos, W.A. and Williams, R. A shows neurofeedback effectively normalizes brainwave patterns that contribute to stress and anxiety, thereby alleviating them. Patients find a reduction in anxious feelings, improved sleep, no longer waking up with anxiety, increase in socialization (able to talk more to others and make eye contact) by those who felt isolated due to the symptoms of anxiety, ability to drive again by those who had stopped due to the anxiety, and able to maintain better coping skills in stressful work environments.

Neurofeedback has also been found to be helpful with ADHD, autism, concussions, epilepsy, insomnia, memory problems, as well as for Peak Performance training. Biohackers Dave Asprey and Ben Greenfield are two health celebrities who promote neurofeedback.

Memphis Neurofeedback uses Loreta Z-Score neurofeedback—FDA approved, and meets the highest criteria for evidence-based neurofeedback practice. 

Protect Your Brain From Stress


Are you stressed out in your day-to-day life? Learn more about what is hindering your brain from being a happy brain!

What is stress?

Stress is your perceptions or interpretations of what the stressors mean.

What are stressors?

Stressors are things outside of your control and typically outside of your body.

Two Types of Stress:


  1. Positive stress is stress that helps you maintain proper energy and to stayed motivated.
  2. Negative stress is stress that drains the body and brain.

Top 4 Stressors that may be affecting you:


  • Money
  • Work
  • Family
  • Health

Effects of Stress to the Body:

  • Temporary shut-down of immune system, digestive system, and endocrine system dysregulation during “fight or flight” mode.
  • “Amygdala hijack” which means tha the part of your brain which controls reason and thought processing are temporarily shut-down while the instinctive part of the brain takes over.

Practical Solutions:


  1. Eat Healthy– Consume whole, real food. Cut out sugars and grains that turn into sugar. Add good veggies, proteins, and fats- yes, fats! Include brain lovin’ fats such as: coconut oil, olive oil, real grass fed butter, egg yolks, and avocados.


2.  Practice SMART Sleep- S= Same bed time each night, M= Magnesium, A= Away from the electronics, R= Really dark, and T= temperatures low.

meditation3. Meditation- Sit quiet for at least 30 minutes a day. Reflect on happy thoughts while breathing from the diaphragm, and not the chest. This helps lower cortisol levels and increase DHEA which is the vitality hormone.


4. Neurofeedback- With neurofeedback, you are able to train your brain to be more resilient to stress. You can also target the stress in your brain as the brain is re-regulated.