The Most Stressful Time in My Life

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What’s the most stressful time of my life? That’s hard to say!  I’ve had several stressful times:  I was given up for adoption, and that comes with separation stress no matter how well it’s done; my adoptive mother died two days before my 9th birthday; a brother committed suicide; the blended family was a wild ride, to say the least; as a young adult, I made a fair amount of really bad life decisions and a spontaneous, poorly planned move to a strange city (Hello, Memphis) knowing no one, having no job, and having to make my way without ready-made connections.  

As with all of us who are married, my hubby and I have had our issues – and now that we work together, well, we’ve added a whole new array of stressors to our relationship!  But we’re doing well- most days.  And we experience lots of blessings working together as well.  

Speaking of Blessed Stress…

I don’t want to leave out my most positive stressors!  As all parents know, having children is no walk in the park, although walks in the park help with the stress of children!  Having children is definitely one of those life experiences that is a mixed bag of difficulties as well as blessings.  As fate would have it, we Brain Trainers have a beautiful, brilliant child with attention issues!  She’s doing fabulously and we’re so proud of her.  And having this gem has helped us empathize with our clients with ADHD children.  

We run our own practice and with that comes the stress of business ownership.  Learning to become a business woman and not just a health practitioner continues to be one of the most stressful things I’ve ever done.  Business skills don’t come naturally to me and I’m having to learn them in my old age.  Thank God, we have plenty of brain tools to help my old brain learn new tricks!  

A Rocky Road

In my late 40’s I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s and, on top of that, struggled with a long flare of EBV.  That was very stressful because I felt sick and exhausted and conventional medicine had nothing to offer me.  I am not a person who takes medications to cover over symptoms.  I believe we can get to the root cause of conditions and I believe healing is possible if we supply our bodies with what they need and get rid of the toxins.  

Trying New Stuff

Oddly, while I hardly had enough energy to do the bare minimum, it was an incredibly productive time in my life.  It’s a time in my life where I dug into my faith in God and learned how to really listen to Him and follow His lead.  Somehow in the midst of the pain, exhaustion and brain fog, I had the grace to really study the body and true health.  I learned how to nourish myself in body, mind and spirit.  I availed myself of our Neurofeedback and stress reduction tools – and experienced our practice as a client would. I believe that helped me become a better practitioner.  

I found some wonderful Functional Medical practitioners who helped me get some services I couldn’t get on my own:  like IV Vitamin therapy and bioidentical hormones.

This hard time in my life became an accelerated learning curve. I tried all kinds of things!

 “Some people thought I was a little overboard, maybe even a little crazy, but I don’t consider anything I tried to have been a failure or waste of time. ” 

I learned so much, and it was so personal to me that those lessons stuck.  Now, I’m blessed to get to use all my experiences and knowledge to help others.  

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How I Deal

I’m not done with my healing journey.  I kind of think we’ll all be on one form of healing journey or another until the day we depart from this earth.  So, I’m learning to have patience (at least I try), and to be curious rather than judging myself.   

I think the most important things that have helped me deal with stress are:

  • My faith in God:  Learning to be quiet and hear His voice has been life changing.
  • Learning to breathe in a way that calms my system and at the same time, energizes me with a good energy has been exciting.  
  • Learning to practice gratitude and appreciation – of even the smallest of things.  I’m learning to consider each day a treasure hunt in which I intentionally search for beauty, kindness and joy, and then take time to revel in the feelings of appreciation for those gifts.
  • Learning to listen to my body to decide which foods nourish rather than deplete me has helped me make increasingly more effective food choices.

Everyone has an incredible story.  Everyone faces a myriad of difficult stressors.  I feel honored and blessed to get to walk alongside people as they step into their healing journey.  I love to listen deeply and help people find their own unique healing path.  

And Inhale… Seven Benefits of Gratitude Breathing

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We all know the cliche scene in movies where someone is stressed out and hyperventilating into a paper bag in order to calm down and catch their breath. Although this technique is not super effective, it does have some merit.

Gratitude breathing, a form of meditation, has a rich history throughout many cultures. It has deep roots in many different ancient eastern cultures, philosophies and religions. Sages of old knew that daily breathing meditation helped people in many ways:  it kept their digestive systems healthy, their minds sharp, and their emotions balanced.  It also served as a way for people to calm their minds and pray.

In support of these ancient ideas, modern science confirms that gratitude breathing has many benefits.

Seven Benefits of Gratitude Breathing

  1. Increased oxygen supply

 

All your cells need oxygen. By doing gratitude breathing each day, you can improve the quality of your blood oxygen levels – which improves your brain and your body!

  1. Calms down stressed nerves

Most of us breathe short, shallow breaths that stimulate the production of stress hormones.  But we can learn to to take long, slow breaths that relax our stressed out nerves. Deep, controlled breathing also promotes the release of dopamine, which puts you in a happy mood.

  1. Relaxes your muscles

When the nerves are calmed down, the muscles naturally follow. Practicing gratitude breathing during stressful times, or just when you’ve been sitting too long, in order to reduce stiffness and enhance overall well-being.

  1. Lowers blood pressure

When the nerves and muscles are relaxed, the arteries relax and blood flow improves. Gratitude breathing can also naturally lower blood pressure.

  1. Improves sleep

Sleep issues are not just night time issues. Stress and too much “artificial” energy during daytime hours (hello coffee and energy drinks),  also affect sleep. Gratitude breathing during the day and just before going to sleep at night can improve sleep quality.

  1. Boost self esteem

Gratitude breathing involves intentionally focusing on things you appreciate. With a daily reminder of blessings and happy feelings, the release of dopamine, the “happy neurochemical,” can help you experience more confidence and optimism.  

  1. Keeps the doctor away

Although gratitude breathing can’t be said to cure disease (by our pharmaceutically biased legal standards), it most definitely improves physiological, emotional, and mental functioning. Research has shown time and again that improving your mind through gratitude breathing can help improve your health.

How to do “Gratitude Breathing”

-Find quiet and peaceful place – even if it can just be in your mind!

-Get into a comfortable position in which you can relax your muscles and your mind.

-Play soothing music or enjoy some silence.

-Keep away from any screens or other disruptions.

-Transition breath to deep belly breathing by expanding the diaphragm and not the chest when inhaling.  Let the belly fall when exhaling.  

-Inhale for four seconds and exhale for four seconds.

-While breathing, gently focus on things that make you happy.  When you get distracted, don’t judge yourself.  Just notice and gently re-focus on the pleasant thoughts and feelings.

-With each breath that you exhale, let all tension and stress fall out of the body.

Involve your family and friends by making a game of it.  Have a treasure hunt each day of beautiful things that you experience.  At the end of each day share those treasures with your loved ones, have them share their treasures with you, and gratitude breathe together to build your bonds of appreciation.

Start by doing this for at least 10 minutes each day and build up to 30 minutes per day.  It’s okay to split the minutes up in the day if you have a hard time fitting this in in one big chunk of time.

Anxiety and Your Brain

Do you worry a lot? 

Do you struggle with invasive, negative, self-defeating thoughts that you can’t seem to stop?

Have you tried counseling, meditating, even medication, and found sporadic, or little to no relief?

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Did you know that Anxiety is a symptom of Brain Dysregulation? 

You have Anxiety Networks in your brain and when they get out of whack, no matter what you do, you will struggle with worry until those networks get re-regulated.

Consider Neurofeedback

Neurofeedback is a safe, non-invasive, efficient and effective way to re-train the Anxiety Networks in your brain to take on the Habit of CALM.  You actually can achieve the brain of a lifelong meditator in a short time with Loreta Z Score Neurofeedback, the Ferrari of Neurofeedback!  

Beware of Anti-Anxiety Medications

You don’t have to take dangerous anti-anxiety medications that create a host of unwanted side effects. 

         Side Effects of Anti-Anxiety Medications

                 * Addiction and difficulty getting off medication

                 * Impaired Memory Formation

                 * Increased Anxiety, Anger, Fear & Frustration

                 * Insomnia

                 * Muscle Pain & Weakness

                 * Cognitive Impairment / Inability to Think Clearly

                 * Coordination problems, Increased Chance of Falling

                 * Headaches

                 * Depression              

Retrain Your Brain

Instead of taking dangerous medications that MIGHT merely suppress symptoms for a short time, you can actually retrain your Brainwave Habits in a very safe, effective, and lasting way.

Rather than spending your resources on conventional medical treatments that increase the risk of long term emotional and physical damage, invest in true health so you can be the happiest and best you.  Train your Brain to Live Fearlessly and Abundantly!  Try Neurofeedback.

Be a Smart Consumer of Neurofeedback Services

There are several kinds of Neurofeedback on the market now and providers do not have to be well trained or certified, so you want to be a smart consumer.  Here are the questions you should ask of any provider who is offering Neurofeedback:

  1. Are you certified by the BCIA? 
  2. Is your Neurofeedback FDA Approved?
  3. Is your Neurofeedback based upon an individual’s functional neuroimage, or 19 channel 3-D Brainmap? Or are you using a one-size-fits all program?
  4. Does a highly qualified Neurofeedback provider actually run my session or do you just hook me up to a machine and let it run a program?

Dr. Dale Foster is a BCIA Certified Senior Fellow, a QEEG Diplomate and a Licensed Neuropsychologist with 30 years’ experience in evidence based NeuroFeedback.

Give us a call for a Free Phone Consult:  (901) 624-0100.

Anxiety & Your Brain

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Do you worry a lot?  Do you struggle with invasive, negative, self-defeating thoughts that you can’t seem to stop?

Have you tried counseling, meditating, even medication, and found sporadic, or little to no relief?

Did you know that anxiety is a symptom of Brain Dysregulation?  You have Anxiety Networks in your brain and when they get out of whack, no matter what you do, you will struggle with worry until those networks get re-regulated.

Neurofeedback is a safe, non-invasive, efficient and effective way to re-train the Anxiety Networks in your brain to take on the Habit of CALM.  You actually can achieve the brain of a lifelong meditator in a short time with Loreta Z Score Neurofeedback, the Ferrari of Neurofeedback!  

You don’t have to take dangerous anti-anxiety medications that create a host of unwanted side effects. 

         Side Effects of Anti-Anxiety Medications

                 * Addiction and difficulty getting off medication

                 * Impaired Memory Formation

                 * Increased Anxiety, Anger, Fear & Frustration

                 * Insomnia

                 * Muscle Pain & Weakness

                 * Cognitive Impairment / Inability to Think Clearly

                 * Coordination problems

                 * Headaches

                 * Depression              

Instead of taking dangerous medications that MIGHT merely suppress symptoms for a short time, you can actually retrain your Brainwave Habits in a very safe, effective, and lasting way.

Rather than treating your health as a short term expense by throwing your money into the current “disease care system” that only benefits when you remain sick, decide to invest in yourself so you can be the healthiest and best you. 

Train your Brain and Live Fearlessly and Abundantly!  Try Neurofeedback.

There are several kinds of Neurofeedback on the market now and so you want to be a smart consumer.  Here are the questions you should ask of any provider who is offering Neurofeedback:

  1. Are you certified by the BCIA? 
  2. Is your Neurofeedback FDA Approved?
  3. Is your Neurofeedback based upon my individual functional neuroimage, or 3-D Brainmap? Or are you using a one-size-fits all program?
  4. Does a qualified Neurofeedback provider actually run my session or do you just hook me up to a machine and let it run a program?

Dr. Dale Foster is a BCIA Certified Senior Fellow, a QEEG Diplomate and a Licensed Neuropsychologist with 30 years’ experience in evidence based NeuroFeedback.

Give us a call for a Free Phone Consult:  (901) 624-0100